Comments on: I’m in Love with a Mormon. What Now?

By: Tom Jones

Tom Jones — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 20:34:04 +0000

I would endorse the last comment from Bus Gillespie. It is imperative that both she and he understand the basics of each other’s faith tradition before they tie the knot, not after, which happened in my case.

By: Bus Gillespie

Bus Gillespie — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 18:57:07 +0000

While I agree with all that has been said allow me to give a little longer perspective to the situation. Currently in the courtship phase of idealistic love there is a feeling that love will conquer all. However should the couple get married and have a life together the differences that were assumed to be so trivial become magnified and a source of irritation.
Assuming that the husband stays a non-Mormon and the wife continues in her church activity, think about the ramifications of these things: The wife must retain a tenth of her income in order to pay tithing in order to stay eligible for temple attendance. The wife needs to go out with another women every month to visit other women assigned to them. The wife needs to invite hometeachers (male priesthood holders) into her home once a month for a lesson [they will certainly be interested in sharing their message with the husband as well]. The wife goes out every Sunday for 3 hours of meetings, and then comes home sad that her husband is keeping her and her children from becoming an eternal family and sharing in the full blessings the church has to offer.
These are just a few of the things that can work to separate a husband and wife if they aren’t united in their religious belief, and I haven’t even mentioned how the children should be raised. I hope that careful consideration will be given in continuing the relationship and that extensive study be applied to understand the beliefs of each other before committing to marriage.

By: lulu

lulu — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 18:09:53 +0000

very well put.

there is a lot of heartache that goes along with marrying a person who isn’t mormon. she will feel bad and you will feel pressured.

if jim has no desire or hope of looking into the Gospel for himself, it’s better for this relationship to end as painful as that might sound.

By: Tom Jones

Tom Jones — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 04:00:26 +0000

Forgot to give my e-mail address. tomstpete@ij.net

By: Tom Jones

Tom Jones — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 03:59:12 +0000

Jim,
I’m not LDS and I married a wonderful Mormon girl. If you’d like to contact me, I’d be happy to answer any questions.

By: Steve

Steve — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 03:24:35 +0000

I think this article was very well-put. I definitely agree with the part where he pointed out that marriage doesn’t solve the problem; it only magnifies it.

By: Emily M.

Emily M. — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 01:20:55 +0000

Jim, I can tell how much you care for her. I think it's important to understand the doctrine, and seek to understand where she's coming from. This is a beautiful post from a different (though still ultimately faithful, and definitely joyful) perspective on Mormon interfaith marriage. It's definitely something you should pray and ponder about, and I wish you well.